Tuesday, June 30, 2009

LBC delivered this morning the copy of the Decision Atty. R sent to me yesterday. I read all the pages while Randy was listening.

More than three years of my life had been wasted hoping to get the freedom from the marriage that supposed to protect me and my kids but, unfortunately, I raised my kids all by myself for the past 25 years. The last time I saw the biological father of the kids was during the Snap Election in February 1986!

I reviewed the 1987 Family Code of the Philippines. We're victims of consequences due to weak implementation of laws to protect the interest of women and children. Why apply the law on my situation now but, failed to apply the same law when my children and I need financial support? In fact, most of our men ran away with their responsibilities, remarried, and abandoned wife and children giving nothing.

Yesterday afternoon, I called Ely Fontiveros at 3:20 PM. I found out from him that the biological father of the kids have two children to a woman he's currently living with. Whether he married her or not is not my concern anymore. I just wanted to get out from our 1979 marriage which existed in papers only.

What am I going to do? I feel so lost.

If we file for Motion for Reconsideration, the Judge will still ask for the Cardona 1979 log book that doesn't exist anymore. The Civil Registrar who issued the certification under my name died in October 2006, long before he could testify.

If we file for a new case, Nullity of Marriage due to Psychological Incapacity, I will go through the same process again. But, hey, I am 49 years old. What future is waiting for me if I will push through with it? Legal proceedings in the country took many years to be resolved thus wasted precious life, opportunities, and money of many people involved.

May God give me the wisdom and the time... at least, enough to fulfill unfinished business and promises...

Monday, June 29, 2009

Atty. R called at 8:19 in the morning and informed me the bad news: Petition for Annulment was denied!

She explained to me everything and mentioned most of the complainants with similar case had been denied as well, including the son of a judge. We have two options left: Submit a Motion for Reconsideration and/or file a new case for Psychological Incapacity, which will bring us back to square 1. Filing fee will cost me 6k plus Psychological Test 25k, a total of 31k!

To date, I lived separately from the biological father of the kids for about 25 years and 1 month. Why I couldn't get an annulment to a fake marriage that didn't have a valid marriage license? I have been a responsible single mother to our three grown up kids, and all I want is a formality to dissolve the marriage which was valid in papers but not in reality. The biological father of my children never supported us since we parted ways in May 1984. In 2003, I had lost an opportunity to work in Geneva, Switzerland, when the Swiss Embassy presented my marriage contract and denied my visa application.

God knows how much I wanted to correct my life and be married in the church. I was only 18 years old when I married the biological father of the kids. I didn't know they cheated me by faking the Marriage Contract by putting a fake Marriage License Number issued in Cardona. Call me noob that time but aren't we all one on our first marriage? Lucky are those who kept their marriage intact but for those who were unfortunate like me here in the Philippines, we couldn't get out of our marriage even 25 years of abandonment had passed.

My concern now is Randy. How long is he going to wait for a 49 year old mother of three to be free?

To our Lawmakers who author Divorce Bill Law, can you please give me a chance to be happy, now that my children are all grownups now? Can you please include an expiration date to a failed marriage, like five years, so affected parties can move on legally with our lives?

Three years and four months of my life had been wasted with this Annulment Case. To the judge who made the decision, I know you're just doing your job and whatever happens to us in the near future, may God intervenes and make things easier for me, Randy, and the kids...

Sunday, June 28, 2009

Randy and I missed the Sunday morning mass when we woke up late.

Although Mama came to spend the weekend with us, I forgot what day was it until we pray the rosary.

My daughter was busy with her magazine deadline and she wasn't able to spend the weekend with us but she promised she will come on Saturday, before Randy leaves to San Diego. Meanwhile, Mama left at noon to attend church service, after knowing my daughter will not be able to visit.

We spent the entire day doing laundry and watching Disk 7 and 8 of CSI Season 1. The weather was good and we're able to dry fast our clothes. Randy has been busier conquering villages on w10 while I did some Neopets flash games. He's happy that he ranked 10 on TW Stats W10 Achievements.

Saturday, June 27, 2009

Ate Neth forwarded to all of us the schedule of our financial support to aide Papa's medication:

3600/month dialyzer
8400/month daily maintenance medicine
2100 monthly blood exam + misc

Schedule of our financial support:

• 6K = Anita June 24, Juy 26, Aug 27
• 4K = Conchita June 28, July 30, Aug 31
• 4K = Lolita July 2, Aug 3, Sept 4
• 4K = Pacita July 6. Aug 7, Sep 8
• 4K = Rosita July 10, Aug 11, Sept 12
• 4K = Jr July 14, Aug 15, Sept 16
• 4K = Nasser July 18, Aug 19, Sept 20
• 4K = Egay July 22, Aug 23, Sept 24

We're just a simple family and some of us will have difficulty saving extra for Papa's medication but Ate Neth has been always there to support Papa's medication.

Papa's dialysis treatment is now down to twice a week, from three times week. He needs this treatment for life. May God help us with our finances so we can extend our father's life.

Friday, June 26, 2009

To Michael Jackson and Farrah Fawcett, may you both rest in peace.

Thursday, June 25, 2009

Randy and I woke up early this morning to do some shopping.

We changed first some US dollars (Series 1996) at Banco De Oro (BDO) then we deposited some money in Allied Bank - North EDSA.

We walked on our way to SM North EDSA where we had our breakfast at McDonalds before doing our grocery shopping. We're almost done with the shopping when Junjun and Tintin meet us at the counter.

They are going to Parañaque and I want them to close my ABC savings account there which has been inactive for two years. Banking with BDO is faster because they are accessible in malls from 9 AM until 7 PM unlike Allied Bank that closes at 4 PM. I still have an active checking account with Allied Bank in Parañaque City even we're living in Quezon City for the past 5 years. The Bank Manager there is my friend.

Randy and I enjoyed our shopping but in spite of full freezer, we're lazy to cook something for dinner so we just ordered Family Super Supreme and Pepperoni Pan Pizza from Pizza Hut.

Junjun and Tintin arrived late in the evening while Randy and I were watching the continuation of Season 1 of CSI. They told me that they closed my account and balance was deposited to my current account.

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Randy and I woke up early so we can go to the bank at 9 AM.

Unfortunately, we couldn't leave until Bayan DSL contractors showed up. At noon, some linemen from ADTEL came and yet, they annoyed me to the max! They said, the service order to transfer our phone line and DSL were wrong. They said someone else, not them, should fix our line.

Still annoyed, I called Bayan Hotline 4112000 and Anne answered my queries. I also talked with Vince Dimaculangan, Anne's supervisor, and informed them about the ADTEL boys who came over our place. After an hour, Lumen Cruz (Tel. No. 4498046), a Bayan Account Manager called up and tried to know my DSL concern. I told her more than 26 hours now we do not have internet.

Then, Raffy aka Rafael F. Chavez, another ADTEL guy came over at 3 PM. He checked both DSL and phone line and left. I wanted to call Bayan Hotline again but I found out our phone line has no dial tone. I sent SMS to Bayan 09178932189 to inform them we have dead DSL and phone line.

In between these BAYANTEL drama, Randy and I were watching the continuation of Season 1 of CSI. Oh! Well... funny how both of us forgot those episodes we watched in 2007.

At 4:45 PM, Raffy came back and bundled our phone line and DSL by using a splitter. At 4:47 PM, BAYAN phone line is working but DSL internet worked for 30 minutes and DSL went dead again. We didn't have internet access again for 45 minutes. After I called Tech Support, Randy and I gave up the internet, moved away from PC and laptop, then watched TV.

Although I don't know whether I should pay the current telephone bill covering 6/13/09 to 7/12/09, I'd like to thank Chris for helping us bundled our phone line and DSL so I have to pay only one monthly bill. I subscribed to BAYAN DSL Plan 2699 on August 02, 2006 but upgraded to Net Basic Plan 1024 on September 11, 2006 in less than a month due to crappy dynamic internet service. Net Basic Plan is bundled with a single phone line but I didn't get the free phone (for two years) for some unknown reason until I applied for a single telephone line on June 05, 2007, after 9 months of waiting to have a bundled phone line from Bayantel.

Today is a very stressful day. Glad Randy is here with us in Manila. 28 hours of no internet access will be too much for me and Randy to be apart that long...

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Glad that Randy and I claimed our planets in Unification Wars game and stored our packets in Tribal Wars before our BAYAN DSL went dead at past 1:00 in the afternoon.

We called several times to Bayan 4112000 to reset our DSL connection but unfortunately, they couldn't detect our modem anymore. A Service Order to transfer our DSL has been dispatched and we were advised to wait for field technician. As Chris promised us when we met him at Team Bayan Forum First Eyeball, he will help us bundle our phone line with DSL. Unfortunately, no one showed up today to fix our internet cable.

Typhoon Ferie will be passing Metro Manila estimated at 9 PM and currently under signal no. 1 alert. Randy and I had been moving the clothes in and out to keep them from getting wet. Since the Bl@st Prepaid Internet card we bought ran out of load, there is no way for us to login online and store again our packets before retiring to bed.

Although furious with Bayan DSL, we took advantage of the situation and we started watching Season 1 of CSI on DVD.

Monday, June 22, 2009

Randy and I were supposed to go to the bank but due to bad weather, we decided to stay home and watched more DVD movies. Since our Bayan DSL went down couple of times, it's quite annoying to call Bayan tech support and asked them to reset our connection to their server.

Kids were furious about the internet's intermittent connection and they watched HBO movies instead.

Sunday, June 21, 2009

Randy and I hurriedly attended the 7 AM Sunday mass at Sto. Cristo Chapel. The homily was about Faith and Fear, in relation with the Father's Day celebration today.

After the mass, we went to McDonalds and had our breakfast. We brought some breakfast for the kids, too.

Pearl and Mama visited us in the afternoon. She brought her WII toy and we had fun with its games.

We served Spanish Rice, Grilled Pork Steak with corn as side dish for dinner. Dinner was good. We barely have space for fruit salad and ice cream. Junjun presented their surprise gift to Randy, a Maong Jacket!

Everyone had a wonderful time... Happy Father's Day to all!

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Saturday, June 20, 2009

After doing our laundry, Randy and I watched some movies in DVD and later ordered Family size Viva Lasagna from Pizza Hut. Since we purchased a palm card, we also get one 1.5 liter of Pepsi and Family size Pepperoni Pizza, for only Php 954.00!

Randy didn't liked the taste of Viva Lasagna so we might try the old pan pizza favorites next time.

Friday, June 19, 2009

The most awaited Bayan Forum First Eyeball: Bayan Red Hot Party turned to be a success although we didn't win any prizes!

We lost our way to Congo Grille but, we managed to get there at 8:00 PM when my eldest son instructed me where it was actually located. It was unfortunate I forgot to write down the complete address and the driver didn't know exactly the location of the venue.

Randy with gorgeous ladies hired by Bayan to entertain us

I forgot to get the name of these girls

Many thanks to the hospitality of Jojo (Marketing), Chris (Network), Freya (Accounts), Mikos (Bayan Forum Mod), NoTroubleFound (Bayan Forum Mod). People, food, and drinks were great!

As you promised that you will look into the status of our internet connection, I just hope you will keep your words...

In the meantime, more pictures will be posted later...

Thursday, June 18, 2009

After the big breakfast, we went to Landmark Supermarket in Trinoma to do some grocery shopping.

Randy was itching to cook stir fried veggies for dinner so we bought some other stuffs we can use for the next couple of days. As usual, he was tempted to bake my birthday cake but I stopped him from buying two boxes of cake mix. All of us should lose weight and must eat healthy meals.

It's a pain to carry those heavy grocery bags up to the fourth floor, especially if one of my sons are not available to help carry them all upstairs.

After dinner, I managed to move Randy's May 2005 blog entries from blogdrive to his new server. I edited and replaced his background image to his favorite ship, Eliott, and also added some side bar links. I had to be careful editing those theme layout pages as I am not familiar with PHP tags.

It's getting late and our eyes were hurting from too much exposure to monitor.

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Randy and I did couple of laundry rounds in spite of bad weather.

Whenever there's heavy downpour of rain, we went out to the balcony and move the clothes to a much safer place.

Strong winds short circuited one of the newly installed light post that I had to call MERALCO HOTLINE 16211 in fear of power failure in our area, should a nearby transformer exploded.

In less than 30 minutes, MERALCO Field Electrician came over and fixed the problem.

In between our online activities, BAYAN DSL kept disconnected and I was furious that I had to call 4112000 to beg them to reset my internet connection in order to access the internet again. What's unfair, I am hooked up to a business plan but the residential 899 plan and my plan get the same bandwidth speed.

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Randy and I decided to relax today by watching Iron Man and Hulk in DVD. We also played UC, TW, and Neopets mini games after we had our dinner.

I received Randy's birthday gift to me: A Health o Meter digital weight tracking scale plus many thanks to Randine (Randy's eldest daughter to first wife), for the fancy watch with matching bracelet.

The watch and bracelet fit well...