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Sunday, October 10, 2004

No matter what I do with my son, Paul Denise often escapes on a Friday night with his friends (or GF?) out and spent overnight with them (or with her?). I sent him couple of text messages asking him where he is but, I believe, he's too busy to text back.

We had earlier agreement that he can go wherever he wishes provided he will go home first after class dismissal so that I can take care of the laundry on time. He arrived home an hour late last night after I left the house to attend a dinner party upon my EX's invitation.

When I told my EX about the situation, he replied smilingly, "This is life. I know it hurts not to see your son at home all the time, but, admit it, he's big enough to find other interests outside your home."

Then, he held my hands with full of assurance that everything is normal and nothing is wrong with me either.


Posted on October 10, 2004 07:14 PM TrackBack


butterfly Let me know you were here, your thoughts are welcome!

Geez, I have an only child, a daughter, and she's only three. Sometimes, I ask myself if I'm really cut for this fatherhood stuff. There really is no definite way of Parenting is there? My Ama died when I was two, so being a father is a BIG deal for me. You seem to have this Parenting gig down pat.


Posted by: scrEaMing mANgo on November 18, 2004 10:13 AM

Hey, John... that's a cruel option, anything better than that?


Posted by: Laila* on October 15, 2004 11:02 AM

I only know of one cure for testosterone poisoning and I don't think you would want that for him since it would preclude him having any Grandchildren for you.


Posted by: Ateryx on October 15, 2004 10:58 AM

It's hard. We've spent the past six years dealing with my stepdaughter's coming-of-age (she's 19 now). Whenever my seven-year-old girl gets "clingy" and wants her daddy constantly, I try and remind myself that in another seven years she'll barely say five words to me in between dinner and scooting out the door with her friends.


Posted by: The Zero Boss on October 14, 2004 03:39 AM

Randy, that's pretty touching story about your mom. Wherever she is right now, I am sure she's proud of you for bringing up your children in a close family ties.

Guess this is what parenting is all about. They'll leave us sooner or later, and have their own families, too.


Posted by: Laila* on October 12, 2004 05:35 PM

Boys will be boys, and though it's unfortunate, they like to eventually get out and do their own thing. He's getting older now and probably wants to express a little independence as I have experienced with my sons.

Be a little patient with him as, if you make it too confrontational for him to live at home he will find a place outside of your watchful eye to express that independence.

That happened with my mother and me. I joined the Navy to get independent, and as a result she saw me very seldom for the rest of her life. An though in later years I regretted the fighting and arguing, it was to late as i was located too far away for regular visits. It made me feel really guilty when she passed away, as there was a lot of stuff left unsaid.

Good luck dealing with him, and I hope the two of you can come to a compromise.


Posted by: RWO on October 12, 2004 05:13 AM

Hello, Christie... thank you for visiting my blog. Paul Denise, my second son, is already 23 years old.

Many years ago, he was just a small baby. Guess, time runs so fast, isn't it? :">


Posted by: Laila* on October 11, 2004 03:59 PM

How old is your son?


Posted by: Christie on October 11, 2004 08:43 AM

Please write responsibly. Thank you!









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